This prompt was once a question on Witches Weekly (which has been neglected, hence why I created this blog in the first place). It's a good thought-provoker, and I look forward to your answers.
If you were to plan your own Wedding or Funeral ceremony, would you create two separate ceremonies for pagan and non-pagan folk, or would you just plan a ceremony around your own personal beliefs? How would you feel if any non-pagan friends or family did not wish to attend such a ceremony?
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Here's mine: Separate Ceremonies??
http://dorothyas.blogspot.com/
My blog post "Separate Is not Equal" is at the address above. I describe the memorial services for my parents. I didn't tell the relatives what to expect; I just did it. But they were ecumenical services including Chrstian music and pagan music to acknowledge who my parents were. And then there's the candle ceremony.
What I didn't write about was the wiccaning we did for a friend whose parents were fundamentalist Christian, the baby's Goddess Mother was a witch and his God Father was a Satanist. That set the cat among the pgeions, but the ritual was well done and the baby well blessed!
I posted mine on my blog,www.potionsandbroomsticks.info
I'd have to say if certain people didn't want to attend,that's ok.
I answered only about the wedding because i am thinking alot about it. ANyway, my response is in my blog: www.greekwitch.blogspot.com. Blessings to everyone.
Got around to posting my re-visited response: http://pagan-sunfire.blogspot.com/2009/05/ceremonies.html
As you can see, I had replied to it before, but added more to it today.
I never really thought about it before. I just naturally assumed I would have one ceremony, and either people would come or they wouldn't.
It's easy for me to say that I wouldn't care about any conflict of beliefs, since I don't have a girlfriend, and so I'm not looking to get married any time soon. But I know if a conflict came up, I'd worry about it.
Well, no.... I wouldn't have two ceremonies. If others have a strong enough difference of opinion about personal beliefs, holding a second ceremony wouldn't do much good in my eyes. Even though the second ritual could be taken as a sign of respect for their beliefs, the differences would still be there after the fact. One ceremony is enough.
I posted mine on my blog.
http://talesofawanderingwitch.blogspot.com/2009/06/pagan-prompts-separate-ceremonies.html
The Short Answer: One Ceremony
Heh, perfect timing. My cousin just had a wedding, and I wrote this right after.
For the full story, you can go here: http://online-grimoire.blogspot.com/2009/08/separate-ceremonies.html
The Summary: it depends. If I have a pagan husband, one ceremony; if I have a husband or n-laws that are REALLY religous, we either have a blended ceremony or we have two.
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